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A dear friend was spreading big chunks of butter on her piece of bread and I joked about her plastering the whole block of butter on it! Immediately I could see she was not happy with my remark. (She must be a butter lover and I spoilt her fun by stopping her axes of butter spread on her bread!) As good friends, we just continued our chat as usual. Still, I did not feel good saying what I said!
Hence, when I saw Oprah’s definition of forgiveness in her FaceBook, which I wished I had seeked but discarded it thinking it was not a big enough issue that could severe our friendship, it dawned upon me that I did wish this incident could have been different! I could just shut up and let her be!
This quick wit of mine was not done in good taste and it bothered me so much that I kept it at the back of my mind, to recall immediately when I saw the quote. Does that mean I should really say sorry to her to make the playbacks go away??
Will that scenario take place? I believe so, because after all, it was only a passing remark which was meant to be a joke! Still, to me it may be a joke but to her it may be a sarcastic remark! The wise Chinese says: The person saying it may be ignorant but the one listening may feel it significant!
Gee, why am I bothered about this forgive and forget issue. Why am I harping on this? Could it be I value this friendship too much? Could it be I realise I could be a jerk sometimes with my words or language? Could it be I am remorse over my silliness?
Arghhh, I better carry on with life and stop this utter nonsense! What is done is done! Let bygones be bygones. If it was a matter of life and death, it should be something worthwhile discussing but over some chunks of butter?! I must be crazy enough to start it in the first place!
Having said the above, I will say, it takes a person with great courage to seek for forgiveness and a person of big heart to forgive.
Let me console myself that my dear friend has a big heart and that I do not have the courage; to raise the issue and be laughed or jeered at! After all, like another wise Chinese saying, big people will not remember small people’s action (literally translated, hahaha)!